Just a Mom- Learning to Embrace Biblical Motherhood

by Vicky


A few days ago I was talking to my Mother-in-law . She mentioned one of her family members had moved so she and her husband could attend Harvard. Yes, both of them.  This astonished me greatly because it’s a prestigious Ivy League School! I’ve never personally known anyone that has gone to Harvard . Although my niece is currently doing a stint as an exchange student at Oxford. Equally impressive!

 Anyway,  I sat there flabbergasted and immediately felt like a failure. Not just a mediocre Joe, but a big fat failure with a capital F! Even though I have 3 years of college under my belt,  I thought what have I accomplished in my 40 years of life. I am Just a Mom.  The Lord spoke to me and said I have called you to be a Mother. You are doing what I have called you to do.  But Lord have you seen my house? Have you seen my disorganization? Have you seen how I terribly fail at so many things?   I have called you to be a Mother the Lord spake again. In the silence of the moment the Lord had spoken to me not once, but twice!  This was profound and significant.  I sat there holding a sleeping newborn on my chest with tears in my eyes and immediately glanced at his brother in his crib, yes twins. My heart leapt at this revelation.

This pulled at my heartstrings, my inner soul . Am I really doing what God has called me to do? How can it be so?  In today’s society we are taught differently than the bygone era.  Girls are taught from an early age to go to college, get a degree, get a good paying job THEN maybe get married and have a kid or two. But don’t let anything interfere with your career! No, not your babies, definitely not your marriage, nothing.  A husband and children are an after thought. We are taught Women can have it all. As long as the all is outside the home! After all, Biblical Motherhood isn’t politically correct.

Political correctness (PC) is defined as “a term that describes language, ideas, policies, and behavior seen as seeking to minimize social and institutional offense in occupational, gender, racial, cultural, sexual orientation, religious belief, disability, and age-related contexts.” The key word here is offense. No individual or group is to be offended in the PC world. Certainly, as Christians, we are not to go out of our way to offend anyone personally, but the truth is that Christianity itself is offensive.   Source: gotanswers.org

The Bible states in Titus 2:5 that women are to be keepers of the home . But doesn’t that contradict what today’s society teaches us?  

Isn’t the fact that in 2016 it has become looked down upon, even shameful to be a stay at-home Mom? Oh it started long ago before now. I remember as a young girl being embarrassed by my Mom listing Housewife as her occupation on my school forms. I wanted her to be one of the Moms that had a real job.  I remember my stay at home Aunt saying she was made to be a Mother . I scoffed and laughed so hard that even at age 10 I knew that was something I wasn’t going to do . Smart girls didn’t stay home, they went to college to make something of themselves as my Mom would say.  I wasn’t raised in a godly home, so I didn’t understand the Biblical role of Motherhood and obviously didn’t fully grasp the call of God in my own life! No, instead I was raised by a stay at home Mom who never felt good enough, never felt worthy around others because she lacked a college education. After all she was Just a Mom.  She made sure to portray to her daughters that being a stay at home Mom is something you do if you have no other options. If you’re not smart enough for school.   You’re one of the unlucky ones that gets stuck at home doing the drudgery, tedious work everyday, living a sub par,  second best life.  

Oh how far this is from Biblical Motherhood!

In Proverbs 31:28 Her children arise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.  Wait? Blessed? Not unlucky? Unintelligent? Unmotivated? Lazy? A Slacker? The poor female that gets stuck at home all day long, cooking, cleaning and caring for her own children? No! Blessed!

No longer will I take for granted the special privilege of being Just a Mom,  it’s a privilege denied by many. I know the ecstatic joy of holding my newborn sons in my arms, and I know the heartbreaking sorrow of holding my tiny baby girl in my hands that never took her first breath.  And through it all God was calling me to be a Mother.

So, I do not apologize for not being politically correct by offending feminist women by staying home to raise my 6 children.  I will no longer feel inferior because I am labeled Just a Mom. I will no longer base my success in life by outsiders opinions. I will no longer hang my head down and mumble no, when asked do I work outside the home. No longer will I cringe when I hear the oh so frequent comment, boy you have your hands full when they see my six sons.  No,  instead I will cherish and honor what God has called me to be. I will gladly embrace the Biblical Motherhood.  Thank you Jesus!



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Amber Wallace 06/21/2016 - 8:48 pm

Wow! Amazing article, simply amazing and inspired by God. Thank You!

Cathy Stinnett 06/21/2016 - 11:55 pm

Vicky you keep amazing me in your just a Mom role that Jesus called you to do!!! I praise the Lord that he did!!!! Thank you for my Grandsons and the peace I have every night when I lay my head down to sleep that I do not worry about them


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